lonely elderly chinese man puts himself up for adoption

by:YEROO     2019-09-16
Tianjin, China-hanzi city survived the Japanese invasion, the Chinese Civil War and the Cultural Revolution, but he knew he could not bear the grief of living alone.
A cold day in last December, 85-year-
The Chinese grandfather collected some pieces of white paper and wrote in blue ink: \"Find someone to adopt me.
\"Lonely old man in his 80 s. Strong-bodied.
You can shop, cook and take care of yourself.
No chronic disease
I retired from a research institute in Tianjin with a monthly pension of 6,000 yuan ($950)
A month, \"he wrote.
\"I\'m not going to the nursing home.
My hope is that a kind person or family will adopt me, nourish me when I am old, and bury my body after my death.
He recorded a copy and put it in a bus shelter in his busy neighborhood.
Then he went home and waited.
Han is eager to be accompanied.
He said his wife was dead.
His sons lost contact.
His neighbors have their own children and elderly parents.
He is healthy and can go to the market by bike to buy chestnuts, eggs and bread, but he knows that one day his health will disappoint him.
He also knows that he is only one of tens of millions of Chinese without enough support.
Improvement of Living Standards and
The children\'s policy has dramatically changed China\'s population pyramid.
15% of Chinese are over 60 years old.
According to the current forecast, to 2040, this will be nearly one for every four people.
This is a demographic crisis that threatens China\'s economy and family life structure.
Businesses must develop with fewer workers.
A generation of only children take care of their elderly parents alone.
In 2013, the Chinese government enacted a law prohibiting parents from visiting.
In fact, millions of \"empty nesters\"-older people who don\'t live with their spouse or children-have little protection. Children leave.
Social safety nets are full of loopholes.
Han tried to find a caregiver but did not.
This time, a lady saw him put a note in the shop window, took a picture and posted it on social media, and begged: \"I hope someone who is enthusiastic can
A TV staff member of an online website called Pear video tells the story of a lonely Tianjin grandfather.
Han\'s phone began to ring.
It didn\'t stop in his last three months. —
At first, Han was hopeful.
He has been trying for years to get people to listen to him and stop the neighbors from telling them that he is lonely and afraid to die and doesn\'t want to die alone.
There are now concerns about reaching out.
A local restaurant serves food.
A reporter from Hebei promised to visit.
He and a 20-year-
Old law students in the South
But when he realized that the family he imagined was hard to find, his mood became bad.
He rejected the offer he thought was lower than his.
On January, a migrant worker called and he dismissed him and hung up.
Han has experienced a lot.
Born in 1932, he was a teenager when Japan invaded China. Mao Zedong was a teenager when he was founded. The latter was a teenager in the hungry years.
He found a job in a factory, met his wife, finally went to night school, and then went to college.
Their son grew up during the Cultural Revolution, a decade of division of family and thought.
\"The Chinese of my age are really miserable,\" he said . \"
His generation endured so much pain that they hoped they would grow old as before: Live in a family compound cared for by their sons and grandchildren.
This hasn\'t happened for South Korea and millions of other people.
It made him angry.
Han told anyone willing to listen that the problem is that young people have abandoned the old model, but the government has not yet found a new system of elderly care.
Jiang Quanbao, professor of demographics, Institute of Population and Development, Xi\'an Jiaotong University, said the challenge is that China is both an aging society and a developing country.
He said China \"grew old before it was rich \".
Peng Xizhe, professor of Population and Development at Fudan University in Shanghai, said the supply and quality of nursing homes in China were \"seriously inadequate \".
\"Even people like Han who can afford decent rooms in nursing homes are generally skeptical.
Old people don\'t want their peers to think their children have abandoned them, Peng said.
Children are afraid of filial piety.
Han said he had fallen out with a son who immigrated to Canada in 2003 and it was not enough to call him.
But he refused to provide their contact number, and he did not want to embarrass them.
Han compared his dilemma to a withered plant.
The elderly, he says, are \"like flowers and trees \".
\"We can\'t grow if we don\'t water.
\"But when the person who saw his story called to check in, he often protested against food in the government or in the home of the local elderly-he tried and hated it.
For the price, the weight is too small, he said.
The soup is very thin.
With the arrival of winter, there are fewer and fewer calls.
Han was once again swallowed up by his fear of dying alone in bed. —
The last few weeks of Han\'s life are a mystery, an ending covered up by stubborn silence and missed calls.
It is clear that the system has disappointed him and is likely to disappoint others.
Han was trying to contact in the last few days.
On February, he began to call the elderly hotline of the Beijing Love Delivery hotline.
Xu Kun, the founder of the line, founded a service to prevent suicide, especially among the elderly living alone.
With age, older people usually become more angry, Xu said.
The problem is that when people need it most, it pushes them away.
\"It is difficult for families and society to understand the complaints and depression that arise as they grow older,\" she said . \".
Han calls several times a week to vent his loneliness to the staff and laments the condition of the home of the elderly in China.
Xu said he stopped calling in the early days of the Long March.
Han also keeps in touch with his law.
Jiang Jing classmates and friends.
He told Jiang that there was also a young man, a soldier named Cui, who often contacted and was interested in adopting him.
On March 13, Jiang Yu chatted with Han for the last time.
She did not receive a call from him on March 14.
At the beginning of April, the next time she called, she heard a strange voice: his son, who later learned.
He said his father died in March 17.
In Tianjin, Han\'s death did not attract people\'s attention.
Two weeks after his death, the neighborhood committee, which was supposed to pay close attention to the residents, was surprised by the news of his death.
The five neighbors said they noticed that he was not in the corridor but did not check him.
Han\'s son, Han Chang, flew from Canada to deal with his business.
He was angry at his father\'s posting of an adoption notice and was angry at the reporter\'s coverage.
Han said his father had been lying and the old man had three sons, not two, and they took good care of him.
He refused to provide the name or number of his brother or sister or anyone who could confirm his account.
He insisted that his father was not alone but old.
\"It could happen anywhere,\" he said . \".
Instead of discussing his father\'s life, he confirmed the basic details of his death: when Han was ill in March 17, he made an unknown call on the phone.
The son will not say who-could be a soldier, another potential adopter or someone else.
Han is most worried that he will die in bed and someone will find his bones.
But when he was there, he had a guy calling him.
He went to the hospital.
He is not alone when his heart comes out.
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